(Don't feel bad for asking if it's E when she was little. Everyone does.)
I think somewhere, way in the back of my now dulled SAHM brain, I always knew we'd do this again. P was a little quicker than I was to get back in the saddle, so to speak. But not long after things started settling in and feeling "normal" with E, I started looking around at files of children casually. I knew I wanted E to have a sister (I have one) and I knew I wanted that sister to be from China. I also knew that I wanted that sister to have thalassemia (mine does not). But even when I saw a file that seemed to "fit the bill" on paper, I still wasn't feeling it.
|R. Born December 1, 2010. Guangdong Province, China.|
Her file says her favorite activity is riding the "Trojans". Obviously, that is true.
Stop the presses. We are in love. Yes, all over again. Like the song: "It feels like the first time. It feels like the very first time." I knew it the minute I saw her sweet face. She's The One. Er, well, the second "The One".
Like with E, we wanted to find our child ourselves rather than being matched with one. Therefore, we were (again) a man without a country. A family without an agency. So when we heard about R becoming available for adoption, we were again in the crazy scramble of not only putting together our LOI, but also signing on with a new agency. But we worked lightning fast, submitted LOI, and had PA three days (!!) later, on November 13. We have been in a tizzy of homestudy visits and paperwork madness since then. Throw in Thanksgiving, a very special Third Birthday, a not-so-special Mama birthday, several colds, a few parties to attend and St. Nick breathing down our necks and you've got one stressed out Mama and Baba. But every time I feel like I can't breathe, I look at E, and am reminded why the hand-wringing and sleepless nights and anxiety over stupid pieces of paper is worth it. NOTHING is more worth it. Yes, I'd do it all over again. And, we are.
|Emmie's now a Jie Jie!|
We realize that our daughters are unique and will experience their lives on a very individual level, but we are so happy that they will have each other. They will have the shared experiences of being adopted, being part of a transracial family, and having thalassemia. They way they navigate all of this will differ, but they will have someone there as a source of support when they need it.
So now we wait. And just like with E, we want R here yesterday and will do everything in our power to get her here safely and quickly. Just like E said, "Emmie, Mama, Baba...Go China, get Roe-rie!"